Something I’ve been thinking about lately is people pleasing. I’ve long known that I naturally have a people pleasing personality. I just really, really like to make others happy. That in and of itself isn’t a bad quality. When it competes with doing God’s will, it then becomes a problem.
Doing the right thing in God’s eyes often means upsetting someone. Saying no to someone or something in order to say yes to God often means upsetting someone. Pleasing God instead of people often means upsetting someone.
The thing is, as a Christian, I am called to love others. There is a distinct difference between people pleasing and loving, though.
I am to love all, but I am only to please One. The One I am to please is God. Period. Thank goodness for that! Imagine if we had to please God and man. That would be exhausting. I know this because I try to do it all the time.
When I find myself upset at not being able to please everyone, or sad that someone is mad at me for doing the right thing in God’s eyes, I have to stop and remind myself that I am to love all, but please One.
When I feel that familiar tug of people pleasing that leaves me feeling anxious and weary, I take a moment to remember Who I am to please. That allows me to love those around me, and helps me recognize my priorities and goal in life.
There is so much freedom in that.
Great reminder! Thanks for sharing your perspective.
Thanks, Amy! Any time 🙂 Sometimes I need posts like this as a reminder to myself!
So much freedom in that for sure! Love this and love you.
Amen! And freedom is such a wonderful thing! Love you too, Rach!
This is such a sweet and endearing post. I’m much like yourself in the way that I’m definitely more of a people pleaser than anything. I always want the people around me to be happy but its tough because not everyone will always be happy so focusing on pleasing the big guy above is enough for me too 🙂
Thanks, Jenny! You’re so right, we just can’t make everyone happy. But if we focus on pleasing God, then we know all will be well in the end! ❤
What a great reminder for me tonight Allie. Thank you for this blessing 🙂 I am good enough for God, because He created me and He is all I need to please.
Awww, thanks Ellie! Sometimes I need posts like this as a reminder Who I need to please in life! 🙂 ❤
This is a great reminder, Allie 🙂 I definitely fall into the “people pleaser” category as well, and its so freeing to remember that we don’t need to make everyone happy!
Thank you, Brittany!
Allie… you have no idea how much I needed to hear this right now. Thank you for sharing.. such perfect timing!
You are so welcome, Mackenzie! I wrote it because I needed to really read it, and I am so glad someone else could benefit, too!