Hi! So, I’ve received a few comments asking me to do a post on what my general thoughts/feelings are on married life. Mostly, the questions focused on what it’s like to live with someone I’ve never lived with before, if Jimmy and I have driven each other crazy yet, if either of us has any annoying habits the other didn’t know about, etc.
We’ve been married about four months now, so I’m no marriage expert (because that title totally exists.. ha), I’m just offering up my personal thoughts and experiences. So, here we go!
Thoughts on married life so far…
-I love being married so, so much. I can’t even begin to describe how much of a blessing it is. Jimmy is wonderful, calm, patient, caring, and selfless.
-We love doing everything together. It’s so amazing to do little “everyday” things together after living an hour apart from each other the five and a half years we dated.
-We get to have a physical relationship. Anyone who is a long-time reader of my blog knows I have blogged about both Jimmy and I wearing purity rings (here and here). We waited until marriage to have a physical relationship, and I’m so glad we did.
-We do a Bible study together each night. I feel like it’s really strengthened our relationship with each other and God.
-We are extremely happy with the town that we moved to. More on this in another post!
-God is good. We have been so incredibly blessed. I have smiled, laughed, and felt so much love from everyone in my life in the past four months and it’s just amazing. I hope to show others the same type of love as much and as often as possible.
Things that are hard
-Missing my family. I now live about an hour away from my family, and I definitely miss seeing them every day. I also miss sharing clothes with my mom and sister, haha.
-Balancing school, work, and housekeeping. I can’t wait to graduate! I now am very easily distracted from school work by house chores, work, and just wanting to relax on the couch with Jimmy.
-Decision-making. We are both super indecisive, so we have a hard time taking action. Example: we’ve been looking for a gender-neutral comforter for months. We are so picky and indecisive about things that we sometimes just don’t make decisions. We’re definitely working on that!
-Our neighbors saw us walking Ford and Scout (when we had them) and said, “That new family has two teenagers and they walk their dogs together. How sweet!” haha.
-Jimmy found out I talk and laugh in my sleep.
-Deciding to give Ford and Scout back to our breeder.
-Finding out my mother-in-law’s fiance has cancer.
-Being able to have people over and host church activities at our house.
-Visiting our families together and then going home to our home.
-Being in a wedding together.
-Cooking meals together. We’re a little team!
Answering specific questions
How has your relationship developed since moving into a house with your spouse?
Our relationship has deepened and been strengthened by moving in together. We like to tackle things as a team, and we try to do as much together as possible. Living together hasn’t changed much about our relationship aside from making it stronger. We’re definitely closer than ever.
Does he have any annoying habits you were unaware of? Do you?
Yes, we both do! He leaves the toilet seat up and his socks on the floor. He also forgets to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher sometimes. As for me, Jimmy said it’s annoying that I let Lola sleep on our bed and on the couches. I think he also thinks it’s annoying that I jump from project to project (sometimes without finishing it), and that I like to go to the library as much as possible, haha. Nothing too serious 😉
Has the dynamic between you and Jimmy changed?
I think it’s become more playful and fun. Being married is wonderful. I love waking up next to Jimmy every morning. Seeing him a lot more than when we were dating is awesome. We now have a million inside jokes and made up words about areas or objects in our house and neighborhood that only we know, haha. That’s not to say that we don’t have serious moments, but overall, the dynamic between us at this point in our lives is lighthearted and fun.
That’s all I have to say. God is good and we are very blessed! Feel free to ask any questions in the comments!
What are your thoughts on marriage?
Married people, did your relationship change after you were married?