Thoughts on married life so far

Hi! So, I’ve received a few comments asking me to do a post on what my general thoughts/feelings are on married life. Mostly, the questions focused on what it’s like to live with someone I’ve never lived with before, if Jimmy and I have driven each other crazy yet, if either of us has any annoying habits the other didn’t know about, etc.

I'm scowling and Jimmy is smiling. Lovely ;)

I’m scowling and Jimmy is smiling. Lovely πŸ˜‰

We’ve been married about four months now, so I’m no marriage expert (because that title totally exists.. ha), I’m just offering up my personal thoughts and experiences. So, here we go!

Thoughts on married life so far…

Great things
-I love being married so, so much. I can’t even begin to describe how much of a blessing it is. Jimmy is wonderful, calm, patient, caring, and selfless.
-We love doing everything together. It’s so amazing to do little “everyday” things together after living an hour apart from each other the five and a half years we dated.
-We get to have a physical relationship. Anyone who is a long-time reader of my blog knows I have blogged about both Jimmy and I wearing purity rings (here and here). We waited until marriage to have a physical relationship, and I’m so glad we did.
-We do a Bible study together each night. I feel like it’s really strengthened our relationship with each other and God.
-We are extremely happy with the town that we moved to. More on this in another post!
-God is good. We have been so incrediblyΒ blessed. I have smiled, laughed, and felt so much love from everyone in my life in the past four months and it’s just amazing. I hope to show others the same type of love as much and as often as possible.

Things that are hard
-Missing my family. I now live about an hour away from my family, and I definitely miss seeing them every day. I also miss sharing clothes with my mom and sister, haha.
-Balancing school, work, and housekeeping. I can’t wait to graduate! I now am very easily distracted from school work by house chores, work, and just wanting to relax on the couch with Jimmy.
-Decision-making. We are both super indecisive, so we have a hard time taking action. Example: we’ve been looking for a gender-neutral comforter for months. We are so picky and indecisive about things that we sometimes just don’t make decisions. We’re definitely working on that!

Clean Floor

I like mopping floors so much more than doing homework.

Funny moments
-Our neighbors saw us walking Ford and Scout (when we had them) and said, “That new family has two teenagers and they walk their dogs together. How sweet!” haha.
-Jimmy found out I talk and laugh in my sleep.

Tough times
-Deciding to give Ford and Scout back to our breeder.
-Finding out my mother-in-law’s fiance has cancer.

Fun things
-Being able to have people over and host church activities at our house.
-Visiting our families together and then going home to our home.
-Being in a wedding together.
-Cooking meals together. We’re a little team!

It's so much fun to have people over and cook for them!

It’s so much fun to have people over and cook for them!

Answering specific questions

How has your relationship developed since moving into a house with your spouse?
Our relationship has deepened and been strengthened by moving in together. We like to tackle things as a team, and we try to do as much together as possible. Living together hasn’t changed much about our relationship aside from making it stronger. We’re definitely closer than ever.

Does he have any annoying habits you were unaware of? Do you?Β 
Yes, we both do! He leaves the toilet seat up and his socks on the floor. He also forgets to put dirty dishes in the dishwasher sometimes. As for me, Jimmy said it’s annoying that I let Lola sleep on our bed and on the couches. I think he also thinks it’s annoying that I jump from project to project (sometimes without finishing it), and that I like to go to the library as much as possible, haha. Nothing too serious πŸ˜‰

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Has the dynamic between you and Jimmy changed?
I think it’s become more playful and fun. Being married is wonderful. I love waking up next to Jimmy every morning. Seeing him a lot more than when we were dating is awesome. We now have a million inside jokes and made up words about areas or objects in our house and neighborhood that only we know, haha. That’s not to say that we don’t have serious moments, but overall, the dynamic between us at this point in our lives is lighthearted and fun.

That’s all I have to say. God is good and we are very blessed! Feel free to ask any questions in the comments!

What are your thoughts on marriage?

Married people, did your relationship change after you were married?

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44 comments

  1. I think it’s really funny that your neighbors thought you guys were teenagers and siblings! I don’t know which is crazier (teens or siblings, though). Someone once thought Clay was my dad which was really weird.

    Although Clay and I moved in together before our wedding (it was like 3 months before), my biggest surprise was that I really didn’t get to see him more. Living together I felt like we would see each other more but we really didn’t because of his college and weird work shifts. Sometimes I’d actually go several days without seeing him, and when I did, I saw him when he woke up to go to work, which was when I was going to bed… and he was always grumpy! I guess finding out when your significant other is grumpy is another thing that comes with getting married!

    1. I laughed so hard thinking about someone thinking Clay was your DAD! That must have been very bizarre! I feel so bad you didn’t get to see him more once you guys lived together. I know hard it is to not see each other. I think if I saw Jimmy less when we got married, I would cry haha. I know what you mean about the grumpiness, too! Jimmy doesn’t like to talk a lot in the morning. He always says “Coffee before talkie” haha.

  2. The comment by your neighbors cracked. me. up! Too funny.

    Marriage is most definitely agreeing with both of you! It’s the best when simple, everyday things like cooking are made so much better by the company, huh? πŸ™‚

  3. I think you have a blessed relationship! Personally I don’t want to get married because I don’t think I could ever do that to someone! Hah!

  4. Love this post! I’ve found that since moving out, I am always distracted by the cleaning that “just has to get done at this very moment”…even though I should probably be studying πŸ˜›

  5. Allie you can just tell how lovely and how much you guys are enjoying life. I agree with Brittany (above) if there weren’t minor annoyances, it would be strange. I’m so happy for you.

  6. Beautiful.
    You’re “hard” things almost seem like they’d happen to you even if you moved out for the first time single! Which is AWESOME.

    THis —> “Our neighbors saw us walking Ford and Scout (when we had them) and said, β€œThat new family has two teenagers and they walk their dogs together. How sweet!” haha.”

    *dead*

  7. You do look like a couple of teenagers – haha! That will become more amazing when you’re 30. I grin every time I get carded or asked where I’m in school.

    I have a question… does Jimmy put the seat down? My mom said that was the first thing she “trained” my dad to do when they got married. LOL!

    1. Haha, you’re right! I bet it’s fun to get carded and have people ask where you’re in school! You’re definitely young looking and young at heart!

      And nope! He totally doesn’t and I haven’t trained him to yet! He’s tough!

  8. Aww so glad to hear that you guys are adjusting well to married life. πŸ™‚ It looks good on you guys! I know I’ve mentioned this before, but we waited until we were married too and I don’t regret that one bit. πŸ™‚ Glad things are going well for you guys!

    1. Thanks so much, Rach! I was definitely nervous(ish) at how we would adjust, but all has been smooth!! I think it’s so awesome that you and Christopher waited, too! It’s hard, but a good decision that I definitely don’t regret!! I’m sure it’s awesome for you to share that kind of story with the teens you help with. You’re definitely an amazing role model for them πŸ™‚

  9. Awww, this post was GREAT! Being married to your best friend is such a blessing, isn’t it?? πŸ™‚ You will enjoy a long and happy marriage, if only because you’re enjoying the simple moments together AND because you’re having those Bible studies and putting God first. That’s where it all starts! πŸ™‚
    I’m SO crazy happy for you both!!!

    1. Thank you and YES! It’s the best, ever! I love it so much, haha!! God coming first is soo important to us! You’re right–once He is in the right place, all else falls into place!

  10. If our relationship has changed, I’d say it’s only grown stronger. We’ve been married for 23 years (that must seem like forever to a newlywed like you!) and I love that we still enjoy each other’s company.

  11. I am so so happy for you and Jimmy! The love and respect you have for each other, and for your marriage, radiates. I just love when two people meant to be get together, it ‘s the most beautiful thing. It’s so fun getting to know each others living quirks. Lou has gotten better about socks on the floor, but we leave a hamper out so he can throw them in that direction… compromise haha. The toilet seat was an issue until our cats kept jumping in it, which grossed him out so now it’s not an issue either. Things have a funny way of working out πŸ™‚

    1. Aww, thank you, Patty!! We really do try to respect and love each other as much as humanly possible, haha!! I agree with what you mean about two people being meant to be together. It’s such a blessing! I think we need to get a cat so we can solve our toilet seat issue LOL!

  12. I seriously hope my marriage is just like yours. You two are adorable!! It would be really hard to move away from my family though. How often do you go back home? (well.. home? Parents’ house? lol!) I love that you cook for people! I’m so excited to host dinners when I have my own house πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you, Leigha! That’s such a huge compliment! It is tough to be away from my family, espcially because I’m soo close with them. So far, I’ve gone home about four times… so like once a month haha. But thankfully I see my family at church each Sunday and Wednesday. Still, it’s only like 10 minutes of talking, whereas I used to be with my mom 24/7 (aside from being at school or with Jimmy), so it’s a big adjustment! And yay for hosting dinners! It’s seriously so much fun to plan out a menu and just hang out with loved ones!

  13. Yay marriage!!!! It just gets better. πŸ™‚ That is SO funny that people thought you were teenagers walking the dog. Hilarious story for your kids someday. This last year at the airport one of the workers thought I might be Kevin’s daughter…. haha. He’s not much older, but I was pretty sloppily dressed and I think he was in work attire. Oops!!!!!

    1. It really is so amazing, and such a huge blessing! I absolutely love it and I really love hearing that it gets better, so thank you! And LOL to someone thinking you were Kevin’s child!!! That’s hilarious!!

  14. i always heard that the first year of marriage was the hardest, and i hope it’s true ❀ i loved the first year for a lot of the same reasons you stated, and i was most surprised/happy about how being married made even the hard times so much better because you were going through them together. as for annoying habits? ha! jon is the same way about dishes, and he learned that i'm pretty bad about leaving food wrappers on the side of the bed πŸ™‚

  15. I’ve been married for six years, and I love waking up next to him every day. Like you said, you and your hubs form a team. He’s there to pick you up when you need, and vice versa. It’s normal that you miss your family. Any change needs an adjustment time.

    1. Six years is amazing! Congrats! I agree. I love that we can help each other when one or the other is feeling down or having a hard time! You’re also right that it just takes time to adjust to a new situation!

  16. Hi, new reader here! So first off, congrats! Being a newlywed was lots of fun, and lots of transitions all at once, but I can honestly say it just gets better and better. We had our ninth anniversary a few months ago, and man it was dreamy. I love my husband more now than I ever thought I could. So, enjoy, live it up, soak it up- theres so much more fun to come!

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  17. Allie I love this post! The dynamic between you and Jimmy is great and just from this post and the pictures I can tell you two are doing great together (not that I expected any differently!). I’m super happy for you. And your neighbors thinking you guys are teens πŸ˜‰ ha!

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