I promised I would discuss this topic, so here we go…
Jimmy and I are getting married in June. We will move in wherever we live after our wedding, due to our belief that couples shouldn’t cohabitate before marriage. As of right now, we still haven’t found a place to live.
We would love to own a small, cheap starter home once we’re married. Finding one has been such a tough process, though! We have been torn about where to live since we got engaged. Right now, we live about an hour away from each other. Jimmy is a welder for his family’s business, and lives about five minutes from where he works.
In February, we put an offer on an inexpensive duplex near where I live, but the seller wouldn’t drop the price, so we gave up on that. We have been in some homes that felt like they were going to cave in. We’ve visited a condo, and also had some fun experiences with eccentric home owners looking to sell their houses.
Then, earlier this month, we found the perfect house. A super affordable three bedroom (babies!) house with a fenced yard (dogs!). It didn’t need any work, came with all major appliances, and only one family had ever lived in it. The only downside of the house was its distance from where Jimmy works. It was about an hour away from his workplace (and super close to where I currently live).
We weren’t sure what to do, so we decided to just put an offer on it and see what happened. Well, the offer got accepted. We started going through the process of buying the home, and yet… it didn’t feel right.
We prayed and talked a lot about how it would impact our marriage if Jimmy had to drive two hours (in Pittsburgh traffic, which is often horrendous) every weekday. We want to spend as much time as possible together when we’re married, and Jimmy having to drive two hours a day doesn’t mesh with that goal.
So we sheepishly backed out of the contract. We both were a little embarrassed to be changing our minds, yet relieved that we were following where God was leading us. We figured that it’s better to back out before buying the house than to regret our choice in the future.
It seemed like the perfect house because of the price and amenities, but in reality, it wasn’t perfect because of the location. It was a hard choice because only one aspect of the house was negative (the location), but we knew that that one aspect would make a big impact on our lives, you know? We learned that a cheap, seemingly perfect house doesn’t automatically mean we’ll be happy, especially if it doesn’t allow us to spend a lot of time together.
So, we have finally decided to look at houses exclusively in the area by Jimmy’s workplace (which we really should have done all along…). The only problem is that the houses are about twice as expensive as the houses in the area where I live (where we’ve been looking). We have tried looking at houses in his area, but the inexpensive ones often need so much serious foundation-type work that they’re not even worth the low price.
Obviously, we know we can rent. We really don’t want to, but it’s not the end of the world. Right now, we’re still looking at houses and just being patient and trusting God. It’s tough to feel like “time is running out” to find a place to live before we get married, but I know He has a plan for us and rushing into buying a house just to have a place to live when we get married isn’t smart.
Wherever we end up–whether renting, living with family for a while, or finding a house–is part of God’s plan. He’s got everything under control! I also know that we’ll be happy because we’ll be together. We may not get what we want right off the bat, and that’s okay. I’d rather follow where God is leading us than follow my own path. I am extremely blessed to be getting married to such an amazing guy, and even being able to consider buying a house.
I have learned so much in the process of looking for a place to live. I definitely want to discuss more about what I’ve learned, but this post is getting super long, so I’ll go more in-depth about it in the future. I just wanted to update everyone on what’s going on!