Embracing Emotions

Something that I’ve learned about myself over the past year is that I am an emotional person. I feel and experience things very deeply. While I sometimes wish I didn’t cry while watching commercials, I am thankful that I experience the full range of human emotion.

I’m currently reading the You’re Already Amazing LifeGrowth Guide by Holley Gerth and gaining a lot of insight into how God has made everyone exactly as they are for a reason.

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While it’s easy for me to feel like I’m weak because I’m sensitive, I am learning to view this trait as an asset to serving God. Being sensitive often means that I pick up on small details. When I talk with a friend, I try to pay attention to their body language and listen to hear how they’re really doing. I cherish deep one-on-one conversations, and I feel amazing when I can lend a listening ear to someone who just needs to talk.

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Understanding that no emotion is “wrong” or “bad” has made a huge difference in my life. I can vividly remember crying in my elementary school library as a child because I forgot to return a library book. It felt like a big deal to me at the time because I had never once forgotten to return a library book. While I know the librarian had the intention to soothe me by saying “Don’t cry! It’s okay!” I also know that she sent a message to my younger self that crying and feeling upset = not okay.

What the LifeGrowth Guide is teaching me is that all emotions are a gift from God that help us process everything we go through in life. When I’m feeling stressed out, I can stop and think what is this emotion telling me? Do I need rest? Connection? Something else? Negative emotions also prompt me to question whether or not I am believing a lie from Satan.

When I start to believe I’m not good enough or I can’t do something, I am learning to stop and ask myself what scripture says about these thoughts. I can do all things through him who gives me strength (Philippians 4:13). I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalms 139:14) and God loves me with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). Knowing that I have the Bible as a tool to confront the lies that are all too easy to believe is incredibly life-giving and works to strengthen my faith as I learn more about who God is and how he cares for me.

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Doubt and lies absolutely thrive in isolation and darkness. When we keep things to ourselves, we feel alone. I know that when I bring my cares and concerns into the light of loving relationships–whether it’s in person, through a quick text message, or an email–that connection with someone who loves me and can speak the truth against the lies makes all the difference. Opening up about things that are more than surface-level prompts others to do the same and deepens relationships. This is the embodiment of Ephesians 4:15:

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” Ephesians 4:15

We may know what is true, but don’t always feel it. That doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with us. It simply means that we’re human and are working on being transformed by the renewing of our minds (Romans 12:2). God understands this because He’s the one who made us and doesn’t demand us to feel a certain way, but rather asks that we keep believing, growing, and obeying.

Here’s to growing in Christ every day and learning to trust and enjoy the process!

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16 comments

    1. Aww! I’m sure you had the right intentions and make your students feel as though they can be comfortable with all emotions!!

      Yay for sensitive people! I’m so glad you could relate 🙂

  1. Being sensitive is such a blessing! I am really sensitive to some things, but I’m also really good at diffusing a situation by understanding how someone else is feeling. I was never a bully in HS (even though I could have been) because I knew how it felt and would never want someone else to feel that way. Even though I do get upset at something someone may say or take something negatively even if it wasn’t meant that way, I also usually know what to say to make a person feel like they matter. My coworkers talk about politics sometimes and even if I don’t agree, I am able to say “Yes, I get that,” or “I see how that would be great!” and just make them feel validation for their views. It was really hard to do this when I started, but now it’s (usually) easier and makes others feel good.
    I may cry sometimes, but I also make a lot of other smile and that makes me happy 🙂

    1. I agree with you, Ellie! I just love, too, that you use your sensitivity in a way that connects with everyone, even if you have a differing opinion. That is true maturity and sensitivity right there!!

  2. It took me YEARS to learn this, and I think I’m still learning it now… 🙂 That book sounds so good!! (Have you seen the Disney cartoon ‘Inside Out’ yet? 🙂 It had some interesting perspectives on this as well).

    1. Aww!! I think I’m still learning it every single day, over and over again in different ways, haha! The book is wonderful and I’d recommend it for sure! I haven’t seen Inside Out yet but I really, really want to!

  3. Amen, amen, amen! Girl, you hit the nail on the head with this! Growing up, I was always made fun of for being too sensitive and needing to “get over it” and “have thicker skin”. But as I’ve grown older I see what a gift it is. Because I feel things so deeply, I empathize SO easily with other people. That makes it easy for me to connect with people and really be able to rejoice with them in good moments and cry with them in the hard times. I am not one bit surprised to hear that you are an empathetic person. Your sweet friendship has shown me that time and again!

    1. Aww, thanks Rach!! You’re right that sensitive is a gift that allows us to deeply connect with others and live life with them! And thank you for the lovely compliment! You’re the sweetest! Love you 🙂

  4. Beautifully said! You are a unique girl and I would love to have coffee with you one day!! I had to chuckle at this because I literally was crying at the drop of a hat yesterday. I just couldn’t stop.

    1. Thank you, Brittany! I would love to have coffee with you, too!! You never know 🙂 we may meet some time! And oh my, I feel you on the crying! That has been me lately–hormone city haha.

  5. This is a great post, Allie. I wrote a similiar one about a year ago as I traveled this same path. I was often told that I needed to stop feeling and exercise faith. But what I was feeling was hurt, and while I had faith, what I needed to pursue was forgiveness, not emotion-less. Much like you, I feel first – and that’s how God made me. I think it ties quiet nicely into our gifts – like writing – and enables us to tap into what other people feel and then articulate that to encourage. You’ve done that beautifully here, and rest assured – there is 100%, absolutely, nothing wrong with pursuing the the person God created you to be. So glad to be your neighbor at #coffeeforyourheart today.

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