More life stuff

Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post about stress. It seems like the consensus is that many people actually don’t miss their college days, and especially the stress that went with along that time in their lives!

I have definitely felt pressure from people saying things to me like “You must be having the time of your life!” and “Your college years are the best years of your life!” and I’m like “Ehhhh, it’s been okay,” haha. I do enjoy school, and I’m extremely grateful to be receiving an education, but I am also excited to move on with my life soon.

A random photo from a walk with Lola and Moses!

A random photo from a walk with Lola and Moses!

One thing that has been contributing to the school-related stress is figuring out where Jimmy and I will live once we’re married.

We’re tying the knot in June, and I will be headed back to school in the fall for my last semester. The issue is that Jimmy works about an hour and 20 minutes away from where I attend school.

Another picture with Lola! She tries to sit in the front of my truck when Jimmy drives us to the park.

Another picture with Lola! She tries to sit in the front of my truck when Jimmy drives us to the park. I guess Jimmy wasn’t too excited about Lola trying to sit up front 😉

So, we’re kind of struggling with figuring out where to live during my last semester. We don’t want to live super close to his workplace, because that would force me to commute two hours and 40 minutes per day, and vice versa with us living right by my school. We’ve exhausted every different scenario, too–like me taking classes online, or getting classes on campus only a few days per week, etc. We’re both just unsure, and we’ve been doing a lot of praying and asking God for wisdom.

Decisions, decisions! We will likely settle somewhere in between my school and his workplace for 6-12 months. We would both love to buy a house right away, but it seems like renting is probably the best option until I’m done with school. We’ll see! I will make sure to keep everyone updated on this issue as we sort it out and trust God to guide us. No matter where we live–apartment, home, by his workplace, by my school, whatever–I am so excited to marry him and begin our life together!

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I feel like I keep posting about such serious topics and decisions lately, but that’s just where my life is at right now! I’m sure I’ll be back with my usual silliness very soon 🙂

Have you ever struggled with figuring out where to live?!

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14 comments

  1. I think it’s refreshing that you’re honest!! 🙂 Sometimes, bloggers try to make their lives look as though it’s always sunshine and roses, and we all know that life can’t be that way ALL the time! Plus one day, when you’re happily married and settled in your new home, you’ll look back and see just how amazing God is, because He brought you through all that stress. 🙂

  2. I completely understand about the stresses of finding a house. We were really unsure about buying or renting but eventually settled on renting. You will make it through this lull and I swear after college I have become the least stressed person I’ve ever been.

  3. Renting definitely seems like the practical option to start. That is tough that your school and his work are so far apart. One semester! You can do it. And even if it makes for long days, you’ll be married and get to go home to each other each evening. That will be special.

  4. I would definitely say to rent. You never know where your education will take you after college and homes are hard to sell. The market isn’t that bad here… I don’t know how it is there… but renting is always a good option unless you plan to stay somewhere for several years. I’m especially grateful we did not buy when we lived in Florence. Homes there take forever to sell.

    As far as commuting goes… if all else fails, you could maybe stay at your parents’ house one night a week during the week when you had school if your classes fell like that (you know, a night class followed by a morning one) to save on some commuting. I know people who commuted an hour a day to college, a lot of people at my college drove close to that. But if you can get classes only on a few days a week that’s pretty great too!

    I loved college and it was the best years of my life. Once it’s over, it’s over, so you should enjoy it. But… I wouldn’t want to go back now! It is a lot more difficult than people realize, even those who were in college years ago. A lot is different in college now than it was when I was there and that wasn’t even too long ago. Heck, when I started college most of us didn’t even have cell phones!

  5. Renting is so great! When things need fixing, you can call someone else to do it! 🙂 We rented two different apartments before we bought our house and it was great. I mean, I love our house and home ownership hasn’t been difficult, but renting is great too. And for us, since we rented apartments, we always had access to a pool and gym which was WONDERFUL. I do miss the pool access now that we’re in a house. 🙂 Anyway, you guys will figure something out and it will be great! 🙂

  6. I loved school, I really did, but with every wonderful moment came an intensely stressful moment too. And as much as I enjoyed school, I love NOT being in school too. Haha. Your situation is similar to mine too, as I was moving and getting married and all of that stuff while also thinking about school, which can definitely add to the stress situation. Hang in there, try to soak in these last moments as much as you can…..YOU’RE ALMOST THERE YAYYY 🙂 (I hope that wasn’t too much all caps for you :P)

  7. While school is great and receiving an education is something is such a rewarding experience – it is extremely stressful… especially the further along into your education you go. I am so happy and excited for you right now, even though there are some major “what to do’s” in regards to living and school/Jimmy’s work commute I know that the both of you will come to a conclusion of what is going to work best for YOU BOTH. Keep us updated friend!

  8. Figuring out where to live is a stressful prospect…

    I lived in the dorms my first year of college because it was mandatory for a program I was doing, but then for the rest of my years I commuted. Even though the commute was at most 35 min during rush hour from school to home, I always felt exhausted if I had to drive after an especially long work day.

    I hope you both come to a solution that works out best for both of you and is tolerable until you graduate 🙂

  9. Although I have never had to make a decision like this, I am going to echo what others are saying here and say that renting sounds like the best option! Then of course you have more room for negotiation if/when you have to move again

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