1. What is a purity ring?
A purity ring is a ring worn by a guy or girl as a sign of commitment to sexual purity until marriage.
2. Which finger do you wear your purity ring on?
I wear my purity ring on my left ring finger, which is the finger that is typically designated for a wedding ring.
3. What does your purity ring have engraved on it?
It has the words “true love waits” engraved on it.
4. Why did you choose a ring that says “true love waits”?
Because I believe it. If someone truly loves you, they will be willing to wait until they’re married to you to have a sexual relationship with you.
5. Did you sign a contract when you got your purity ring? What does it say?
Yes, I did. It says “Believing that true love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my friends, my future mate, and my future children to a lifetime of purity including sexual abstinence from this day forward until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship.”
6. Where did you get your purity ring?
I bought it from the Family Christian bookstore.
7. Why do you wear a purity ring?
See this post.
7. Does your boyfriend wear a purity ring? What does his say?
Yes, his purity ring has “1 Thes 4:3” engraved on the outside and “purity” engraved on the inside. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 is a scripture from the Bible that says “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.” His ring is also from the Family Christian bookstore.
8. What are you allowed to do sexually while wearing a purity ring?
I believe this is between the ring wearer and God. Personally, my boyfriend and I have decided to only kiss on the lips (a quick peck only), hold hands, and hug until we are married. So that means no making out, nothing in between making out and sex, and obviously no sex.
9. Do you and your boyfriend ever feel tempted?
Yes. We’re both young adults in our 20s. We’re not superhumans who have no emotions or hormones. It was actually harder to stay committed to purity when we first began dating than it is now, over four years later. I’d say this is because we’re farther into our relationship and accustomed to our commitment. We make sure to avoid temptation by not spending time alone in places that could cause us to stumble.
10. Did your parents force you to wear a purity ring?
No. I actually asked them to buy me one as a gift. They talked and prayed with me before I signed the contract because they wanted me to be 100% sure about my commitment and what it really means.
11. What are the benefits of purity rings?
Knowing that I’m obeying God, saving my purity for my future husband, not contracting sexually transmitted diseases, and not experiencing an unplanned pregnancy.
12. What does the Bible say about purity?
Check out these scriptures: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, Psalm 51:10, Leviticus 11:44-45, 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Romans 12:1-2, Numbers 32:23, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, Titus 2:11-12, Matthew 15:19-20, Ephesians 5:3-4, Proverbs 4:14-15, Jeremiah 17:10.
Feel free to leave a comment if you have any other questions!
It’s interesting to read about purity rings. I honestly don’t know anyone right off who wore one of these (most of my friends are married now, but I’m also older than you, hehe). It’s not something my husband and I did, as I’m more spiritual than religious. However, I was pretty strong about not living with him until we were going to get married (I moved in a couple months before, due to leasing things). Lots of my friends moved in with significant others- but it was just something I didn’t want to do. People acted like it was “test driving” a marriage, and I said I felt secure enough in my relationship with Clay to know our marriage would “make it” regardless of living together. So, I can understand where you are coming from with the ring and admire you for standing strong in your beliefs even when it’s not what most people are doing.
Thank you for sharing all this Allie. I remember chatting with you a couple of years ago and I honestly think this is great. You are so open and honest, obviously a reason you are one of my favorite bloggers.
I really admire you for making the decision to wear a purity ring, Allie. I know it can be tough with pressure from society and whatnot, but it’s nice to see someone who sticks to her values and morals. I also think it’s great that you and your family prayed and thought about it together before you made your decision. Thank you for being so open about this and sharing it with us 🙂
That is awesome for you, girl. I really admire that. Thank you for being yourself and following your own beliefs!
BEAUTIFUL post my friend and I’m so glad you shared. Waiting is the best and SO WORTH it. You two are an inspiration!
Waiting is the way to go! If someone is special enough, they’ll do anything. Any Jimmy is definitely special enough 🙂
I admire your decision, your commitment to that decision, and your passion for what you believe. You are a strong girl and wise beyond your years from the sound of it. That goes for your boyfriend as well. (Except he’s a strong boy, not girl – well, you know what I mean 🙂 )
It’s great you can make such a commitment to each other especially the way things are now-a-days. You are a strong girl and I’m glad your very passionate about faith. It’s good to hear because, like I said, this is very rare for people our age. 🙂 It really shows you’re truly in love!
I love this! I think it is so wonderful you and Jimmy share the same beliefs. I can only imagine how much stress and awkward moments you have avoided!! Awesome 🙂
Great Q and A!
I like how you mentioned that a lot of it is based mostly on the wearer and God. I am all about relationship > religion.
Fantastic commitment Allie. Thanks for sharing 🙂
You are one strong chick! I love this post, and I think your choice will bring you so much peace throughout your life. It’s so amazing to have your boyfriend in on this with you. It’s one thing to respect your decision, but it’s even better for him to also wear a ring. You two are perfect together! I do like how you mentioned that you are not superhuman, there are always temptations and avoiding situations is the best way to continue on this path you’ve chosen!
This is beautiful! You’re so lucky to have Jimmy as he is lucky to have you! 🙂
I knew very little about these before your explanation, so thank you for taking the time to tell us more about it Allie! I remember at camp one summer (I think I was around 11?) a friend of mine had one but I couldn’t comprehend its entirety at the time
I have so much respect for you and Jimmy. =) I’m so glad that you have each other and that you’re so strong in your beliefs. I know it can be hard sometimes when people just don’t understand why anyone would want to wait!
You are so sweet -I love that your BF wears one too. Too often these things seem one-sided.
Do you and Jimmy talk about being sexual/physical (I don’t mean in a graphic way–in a practical, open way)? Do you worry that your relationship may change once the physical does become involved, especially since you that after 4 year, NOT being physical is the norm/habit? Great post yet again Allie, so interesting!
Good question! We do talk about being sexual and physical, but probably not enough haha. I definitely worry about how our relationship will change and what things will be like. But I think it will just take time and trust to get used to it all!
Awesome post. It’s really great that you AND your boyfriend agree about the same thing and are standing up for your morals 🙂
In my experience, people are pretty quick to call a wide variety of females “sluts” and “whores” regardless of whether or not the female has even HAD sex with ANYONE, and regardless of whether or not they know ANYTHING about the female’s sex life. While I think you’ve made a good decision for yourself based on your values and beliefs, it bothers me that any female should even have to CONSIDER the possibility of being called a “slut” or a “whore” or have to factor that possibility in when making decisions about sexual activity.
I agree with you that people are pretty quick to call almost any female a slut or whore regardless of their knowledge of the woman’s sex life. Thank you for respecting my decision, too. I appreciate that. I have actually gotten a lot of flack for my decision to remain pure, and have been made fun of numerous times.
I just wanted to let you know that I didn’t decide to commit to purity because I didn’t want to be called a slut or whore. I also think that most women who wear purity rings don’t wear them because they don’t want to be called a slut or whore. When I made the decision to remain sexually pure until marriage, being called those names was not on my mind. What I was trying to say in my blog post is that naturally, because I wear a purity ring, people aren’t quick to call me a slut or whore. It’s only a “side effect,” if you will, of the choice I’ve made, definitely not the reason or even a factor of why I’ve made the choice. I hope that makes sense. I just wanted to clear the air on that!
You’re a wonderful girl. I’m really impressed with how grounded and in touch you are with your values and the long-term effects of your choices today.
So glad you shared this! You and Jimmy are so great together. 🙂
Aww, thank you!!
Hi Allie, I am a college student who has been dating my first and only boyfriend of eight months. We are both believers and have discussed our individual desires to save sex for marriage, however do also struggle a lot with physical boundaries. Do you mind sharing more about what this was like for you as you were dating Jimmy? It is nice to near that it got easier for you as time went on! Loving your blog 🙂
Hi Manders! Thank you so much for checking out my blog and for the comment! I really appreciate it :-). Also, congrats on your boyfriend! I think it’s awesome that you’re both believers. That’s such a great foundation for a relationship right off the bat! I would love to share anything about my experience dating Jimmy! Do you have any specific questions? If you want, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you’re more comfortable talking privately. Either way! Thanks again for your comment 🙂