Something I struggle with: trying to constantly please people. I guess my problem is that I constantly look for love and validation from people. Nothing is wrong with wanting to be loved but I recently realized something.
No one on this earth can love me like God does. No one.
I shouldn’t expect/look to others to love me the way God does. It will never end well because humans are flawed and God isn’t. Duh. Not expecting my parents or boyfriend or friends to love me “perfectly” will take a lot of expectations that I have for them, off of them. Also, when I look to people to love me unconditionally and perfectly, it is almost like “snubbing” God and saying that I don’t trust Him to love me the way I know He does.
I know it will be a process to detract myself from this habit but I made this realization and I just had to share it. I hope I made some sense 🙂
Yaaaaaay I am loved. 100%. Unconditionally.
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Allie i used to have this very same problem & it was awful! I was constantly feeling disappointed and let down by others who had done little to nothing wrong! So I’d push ppl away who didn’t fit my “perfect” expectations. It stunk. I’m glad you realize the only perfect love comes from Christ :))) the more comfortable you become with that realization the more liberating it will be and will really relax your desire to please others & just let you be you! Terrific post!
Amazing post 🙂 I deal with some of the same issues with people pleasing. I’m just so glad to know there’s a loving God who cares for us no matter the flaws we have. It’s truly awesome! 🙂
I used to be a people pleaser. It was at its worst when i was in a controlling relationship. I think the circumstances made me not only want to please this guy …but the aftermath trickeled down to other people in my life
Even after we brokeup, it took me a long time to not have the desire to please everyone. Do I still like to please people? yes. But I also like to please myself. So I work to find the balance. Making myself happy comes first. Making my friends and family happy… is a very, very close second.
I have the same problem girl. I feel like I’m always trying to please people. I broke up with Aram because I was too busy trying to please people (him, my parents…others…ect) and realized I wasn’t really that happy.
Yep, I think it’s perfectly natural to want to feel loved, good, adept, etc. All of those things! We are human. But you’re right, there’s a point when we ask for it too much and it will never be enough to satisfy us. I think we need to find that validation inside of ourselves. It can’t come only from others, like you said!
You are loved!
I love your faith. It’s true…God loves you us than anyone! Always need to remember that during hard times! 🙂 I feel like girls are often people pleasers as well. We want everyone to like us and to be loved by those we come in contact with
Awesome post, lady! I’m so not a people pleaser so I struggle with feeling bad that I’m not trying to please everyone sometimes.
Aw… I know what you mean! I think most people struggle with this! Your not alone! 😉
That makes the most beautiful sense, Allie!
I learned a while back that – when it comes to people – we don’t get to choose the way we are loved or the manner in which we are loved. My Dad expresses love in a different way than “my dream Dad” would have. And I had to learn not to dwell on the missed affection and snuggles and just recognize the way he does show love and there are many many ways. And my mom? Sometimes you just want someone to listen. But she ALL starts judging and proffering advice anytime i have issues. And you know what? That’s what she does for those she loves. I had to stop wishing I was loved in a different way. However — this does not apply to boyfriends. You gotta find the man who expresses his love how you need it. (0:
That was a long ramble but realizing that was a huge turning point for me and it (well, kind-of) relates.
I know what you mean, I have the same issues for a long time and I am constatntly trying to work on it, but it is a hard work. Good luck 🙂